When Does Typical Rudeness Become a Microaggression?

Oh, please shut up.

Yes. I went there, because it was necessary.

Let me first say, I was the only girl, raised in a house full of brothers. I know what it is to be interrupted. I compensated by becoming the loudest and most opinionated.

That was back in the days before words like “microaggression” were a thing. People were tougher. Being the most victimized wasn’t something to aspire to, and we tended to see excessive whining as a weakness, not a fashion accessory.

Now, let me say this: Being the CEO of an internet behemoth like YouTube is an accomplishment.

With that in mind, why is YouTube CEO Susan Wojcicki complaining about microaggressions? She’s obviously done quite well with getting her thoughts out there.

In an interview with CNN’s Poppy Harlow, Wojcicki says:

Whenever you have a culture that is — whenever you have a majority and a minority, it’s gonna be harder for that minority. You know, even in a culture where people are really well-meaning … there are sometimes microaggressions, right? Like people who will just cut you off, and you’ll be talking and then someone will interrupt you.

So that’s actually become, like, a big pet peeve of mine. So, whenever somebody, like, interrupts me, I’ll be like: “Wait, I was talking. Do not interrupt me.” But I enjoy it even more, actually, when I see them interrupting someone else, and then I’ll be like: “Wait! She was talking. Don’t interrupt her.” And I think [every time] I’ve done that, people have been like: “Oh, thank you. I didn’t realize I was doing that.” And so I think just making people more aware of it is really important.

Ugh.

No, ma’am. That’s not a “microaggression.”

Is it rude? Yes, it is.

And that’s all it is. Just rude.

Sometimes, people just have ideas that they want to get into the mix and they don’t stop to think about how inconsiderate it is to cut off another person.

That’s just human nature and it happens, but to call it a “microaggression” is assigning some insidious motive that doesn’t always fit, and that is counterproductive to creating an environment for open, honest discussion.

What Ms. Wojciciki also did with her statement was suggest that women are victims, rather than equal members of society.

By equal, I mean equal in capabilities, as well as personality flaws.

Let’s be honest: Women can be total jerks, to men, as well as to each other.

I’m honestly curious to know if Ms. Wojcicki has the same reaction when she hears a woman interrupting a man? Is she equally peeved to hear women rudely cut off a man who has a legitimate idea that he’s trying to present for consideration?

Bottom line: Human nature is flawed, and it is not gender-specific. We’re all pretty awful, on some level.

The idea that something as common, albeit annoying as being interrupted while we speak should be put on some list of “microaggressions” is taking this new age of weakness to ridiculous heights.

Just. Stop.

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