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WATCH: Modesty and Sexual Assault

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Sexual abuse is always a choice. It is a crime and a sin that is the sole fault of the abuser, not the victim, regardless of what that victim is wearing or saying.

Truthfully this is a great moment for Christians. Check out this week's video here and find out why.

Yours is a great clarification of what should be promoted by believers—thanks, Peter!

Yes! This topic deserves real discussion. Whereas it would be a perfect world where women could dress in a variety of ways to simply please themselves, the truth is, men are hormonally geared to believe they are “receiving cues” from women, whether intentional or not. Whether through a mode of dress, or even incorrectly perceived facial expressions, a lot of men are believing they are being “communicated” with through women’s actions. And, of course, this communication will come across as sexually-motivated in these cases. This was actually brought more clearly to my attention by a responding comment on an earlier post about Charlie Rose, who thought the women ALL "shared his feelings"?? Yikes! That commenter even offered online research links to verify the validity of men's cue confusion: https://www.themaven.net/theresurgent/contributors/the-charlie-rose-allegations-shows-how-common-abuse-is-in-our-culture-DaMWfrhe0kaJZXQe8ELS7g In light of this very logical truth, why in the world wouldn’t women see the common sense and moral decency of at least dressing more modestly, especially in the workplace? If we respond with a “hey, that’s their problem, not mine” mentality, we are actually taking a role in worsening the ever growing divide that has now found its way between God’s creation of man and woman. We, as women, can play a part in repairing this divide, and maybe even build back some of the wonderful respect from men that our grandmothers enjoyed back in the day. How could that be bad?

A few random thoughts.

Ok. First post. Can't hit return for a line break, I see. #1 It is hard to speak the truth in love, to be as wise as a serpent yet gentle as a dove. It is very difficult to get right and even if we get 99% of the way there we very possibly will still be hated. #2 Look at how may times the girl says sexy in her post. Is that not a red flag? Sounds like the Woman Folly in Proverbs. We do live together in community. We are our brother's keeper. There is woe for those who cause others to stumble. #3 Peter, you are a very smart guy. Have you read Schaeffer? I think you are falling for the fallacy of upstairs/downstairs thinking.

Hi BooneCtyBeek. I certainly wasn't defending Aly's message - it clearly comes from a worldly perspective. I was merely commenting on what I see as a better way for Christians like Gabby to approach and correct it. From there I'm curious what exactly you were saying. Yes, we live in community with the ungodly. Not sure what you mean by "we are our brother's keeper" - that was Cain's smart aleck retort to God. Who was causing whom to stumble? Yes, I have read quite a bit of Schaeffer but I'm curious in what way I'm falling for the upstairs/downstairs thinking? I'm not disputing it, just trying to understand what you mean. Thanks again for responding.

Since you say you are familiar with Schaeffer and his upstairs/downstairs, this is what I heard when you mentioned Timothy and modesty. Christian thought and morals remain upstairs. Our living is downstairs. All that Christians do is to be done to the glory of God. Can it be said nothing an unbeliever does is to God's glory? I'd say yes. However, to live in the manner God desires us, as a society, is not merely restricted to believers. The challenge is to convince the unbelieving culture that, modesty in this case as opposed to sexy, is really the better path to choose. Let me put brother's keeper and stumbling into this context and massage a bit. Let me rephrase it positively as the Golden Rule. This used to be an other-focused value accepted in our society. Despite her insistence that it is her right to look sexy this runs counter to her responsibility to others. In her sexiness she is causing others, men, to stumble.