Stop It With The 'Theybies' Already

The drive to erase gender from childhood ignores science and common sense.

Little boys and little girls have more in common than they have differences. It is well established and rigorous science that shows all human traits occur on some kind of bell curve and the largest differences between the sexes occur at the the tails of said distributions. Yet the regressive left wants you to believe that all behavior related to gender is simply a social construct that can be manipulated to erase these differences. Even though researchers can find physiological and hormonal influences, especially after puberty that undoubtedly influence both behavior, prefrences and emotions.

Case in point:

#NoMoreBoysAndGirls, because millions of years of evolution must be wrong.

My favorite part of this video is when 'Sophie' looks at the adult volunteer like she has three heads.

I've raised two boys and two girls. When I was a young mother, the elder ladies in my family thought I was crazy. As infants, my children ate when they were hungry, slept when they were tired and I gave them all kinds of room to meet the needs of their little selves on their schedule. One distant cousin went so far as to call me a 'hippie' which makes me laugh out loud to this day.

They also played with all kinds of toys from their first computer keyboard at 6 months old to Legos, dollhouses and kitchen sets. For the record, all four of them are pretty good cooks. I don't see them ordering avocado toast at $22.

I clothed them all in bright colors with interesting patterns until they were old enough (usually around the age of two) to pick their own preference from a set of alternatives. My oldest girl invariable picked shades of blue and purple, both declared to be her favorite colors by kindergarten and the color of her room until she went away to college. Her younger sister invariably picked hot pink, bright orange and sunny yellow. Her room was the color of Pepto-Bismol for years.

They assailed their baby brother and played dress-up with him using purple tutus and their favorite shoes, including mine. His greatest love is still cars and the inner workings of engines and machines. However, he is still a fan of bright purple. Likewise, our oldest son also loves bright colors, but has turned to people oriented professions rather than machines.

My oldest daughter never cared for dolls and gravitated to music and musical toys and games when she was young. She turned into an amazing artist and asked for K'nex sets, robot kits and computer parts throughout her teens. She scored in the top 10% in math on the SAT, yes, the same one used for college entrance, when she was in 8th grade. She ended up focusing on language and neuroscience when she headed to college.

Her sister loved all of the Fischer Price sets, dolls, horses and pretend play of all kinds. She was a great all around student as well graduating 17th in her class of over 500, and decided she wanted to be a teacher when she was still in junior high. And she approaches that goal with great passion and joy.

My point is this. Each of my kids is unique. But their preference for certain colors, types of play and long term interests did not erase their gender. I still have two boys and two girls. Letting them lead the way in letting us know what they enjoyed and where their interests were helped us support them in discovering their place in the world.

Parents, caregivers and society in general would do well to recognize children as individuals capable of amazing things. Gender isn't lost in this, rather is just a part of the person they become. Trivializing it in childhood is not likely to change a whole lot about the talents and preferences your child displays. Remember the bell curve, the overlap and the tails in that bell shaped distribution for every facet of personality. And be prepared for wherever your child lands.

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Thank you for sharing your kids with us in this moment. Your point is truth unfolded - each individual is a reed that needs to gain deep, wide roots to grow into strong but flexible adults that can withstand the storms & draughts of life they will encounter.