Mike Rowe has been producing a series called Returning the Favor on Facebook for two seasons. If you haven't seen it, I highly recommend it. Especially if you spend too much time in partisan politics. It features amazing people who truly make a difference in their communities. In the most recent episode, featured above, Rowe featured Carlos Flores. Mr. Flores runs a program that actually deprograms bullies with a fair amount of success.
During the course of the video, Rowe shared some statistics. One in five children report being bullied. Of those who are bullied, they have a 250% great chance for attempting suicide. He also does a great job explaining the difference between bullying and the teasing and altercations that would have been considered normal when many of us grew up.
Later in a Facebook post he also expounded on one of the reasons he cited as a potential cause for the rise in bullying. In his usual eloquent way he opened a conversation about the lack of value we as a society have placed on fatherhood and fathers in recent years. Here are some of the statistics he shared.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes – 5 times the average. (US Dept. Of Health/Census)
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes – 14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
43% of US children live without their father [US Department of Census]
He also noted a majority of bullies, school shooters and older male shooters also come from fatherless homes.
This is something we are not supposed to talk about in a world that is so politically correct. Nor are we supposed to mention that what seem to be well-intentioned government policies actually encourage the disintegration of the traditional nuclear family. And it would be absolute heresy to say that the traditional family structure provides lifelong benefits to children that others just don't.
But 30 years of research is saying it. Mothers and fathers are equally important to the emotional and social adjustment of their children. This includes academic performance, college and other issues such as long term health. Children from two parent homes also participate in less high risk behaviors such as drug use and petty crime.
So three cheers to Mike Rowe for calling it out. The PC police can make it very intimidating to see root causes in subjects they consider taboo. However, if we are going to have a real discussion (as our friends on the Left are fond of pleading) about educational achievement, violent crime or the sharp increase in behavioral problems in children, the role of fathers and male role models for children must absolutely be a part of it.
Facts matter and the numbers are in. Kids need male and female nurturing in their lives.