You are wrong Emily Lindin

Open Letter to Emily Lindin
From Thomas Fidler
The Fathers Rights Movement

Emily recently published this below on Twitter. I will respond after her writing.

By: Emily Lindin

I'm actually not at all concerned about innocent men losing their jobs over false sexual assault/harassment allegations.

First, false allegations VERY rarely happen, so even bringing it up borders on a derailment tactic. It's a microscopic risk in comparison to the issue at hand (worldwide, systemic oppression of half the population).

And more importantly: The benefit of all of us getting to finally tell the truth + the impact on victims FAR outweigh the loss of any one man's reputation.

Sorry. If some innocent men's reputations have to take a hit in the process of undoing the patriarchy, that is a price I am absolutely willing to pay.


I am writing to you in response to your published stance of indifference to the persecution of innocent men.

Let me start with the claim of “worldwide systematic suppression of half the population.”

I’m glad you qualified this statement with worldwide as we all know in much of the world women have no rights at all and are treated worse then dogs. Believed to be property of her husband or father. It’s atrocious, unreasonable and unforgivable behavior where this is happening.

A women can accuse a man of raping her and she will be beaten for being unfaithful to her husband. I don’t think in those countries a false allegation against a man will hurt his reputation, or cost him his job. Do you?

No I didn’t think so. If you are going to make a claim and then qualify that claim with something that doesn’t even apply, than it immediately calls your credibility into question.

So let’s stick with the free countries that value women and sees them as the equals they are shall we?

Not all free countries may be the same, and I’m not that well traveled. So I am going to speak to you about here in the US.

Let’s touch in your claim of False Allegations being RARE.

Are you aware that the divorce industry has caption a phrase called “The Silver Bullet” to describe a growing phenomenon where false accusations are the core strategy used because they are so effective.

In fact Elaine Epstein, from your own home state and former president of the Massachusetts bar association has this to say: “Everyone knows that restraining orders and orders to vacate are granted to virtually all who apply…In many cases, allegations of abuse are now used for tactical advantage.”

I guess that’s everyone but you Emily? You think you are more qualified to speak on the subject than Ms. Epstein as an attorney with decades of experience and president of the BAR?

I didn’t think so.

Emily, nearly half the men I know that are over 35 have been falsely accused at some time in there lives. That’s just my personal circle. Let’s go to a larger base sampling shall we?

Are you aware Emily that some domestic violence organizations like SAVE (Stop Abusive and Violent Environments) estimate that 80% of allegations of domestic violence in a divirce are false or exaggerated?

80% !!

Did you know that 1 in 4 men entering a divorce today will be accused of domestic violence.

You must be friends with or interact regularly with a few dozen men? Do you think 1 out of every 4 of them are violent abusers?

Emily, False Allegations are not rare. They are reaching epidemic levels and remind me of the Salem Witch trials.

You know what those were don’t you Emily? You know where they burned innocent women at the stake without evidence.

So your next statement about so what if some innocent me lose their reputations.

It’s not only our reputations and jobs that false allegations are costing us. It’s costing children their fathers and it’s doing it en masse. It’s costing men their very lives daily.

The idea of innocent until proven guilty is a concept that goes back to Plato and before. It is a cornerstone in the foundation of a civilized society.

Men like Blackstone who phrased “It is far better that 10 guilty men go free than one innocent man be wrongly convicted.” now known as the Blackwell formula knew of the importance of this concept.

Men like Benjamin Franklin (ever hear of him) found this concept so important that he stated not 10 men, but it is “Better that 100 guilty persons escape than that one innocent be condemned.

I have the feeling Ms. Lindin that you are more inclined towards a phrase like Its “Better that ten innocent men be condemned than one guilty escape”

Am I right?

I thought so.

Emily it is wrong to destroy the lives of innocent people in the name of progress.

I’ll leave you with this, written by a friend Janet Bloomfield where she points out to us that here in the US women have more rights than men. Five legal rights that women have men that men do not.

Can you tell me one legal right here in the US a man has that a woman doesn’t?

I didn’t think so.


Thomas Fidler

No. 1-2

Thank you for this entertaining piece. Yes, men are leaving society faster than our generation X mothers can account for. Like a treasure stolen the women will wake up to find fathers are nowhere to be found, these same women and the women of the next two generations will gnash their teeth as foretold in the bible. If Emily was so concerned with not being called the slut then she should have kept her legs closed in grade school.


Thanks for the letter to Emily Lindin, who is obviously knows little to nothing about the real world. I agree rhat women are using these trumped up abuse allegations to leverage themselves in divorce situations. I know of two women personally who have used abuse as their "silver bullet". One even had two alleged abusive husbands. What are the odds? The other is my now ex DIL. Wow, this one is a piece of work. She too is a self proclaimed feminist. I have a few other names that fit better. It has to stop. Women have to lose this "women never lie about abuse" shield they are wielding. It is dangerous. I also believe these under 18 girls who seduce older guys by lying about their age need to be put on the sexual predators list. The guys should the girls be. Just my thoughts. And I'm a woman.


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